June 30, 2005

Invisible boundaries.

A boy and a girl.

Pristine and precious. That's all there is to the relationship. Right?

In the midst of all the teasing and the giggles, buried somewhere between a snicker and a lazily pointed finger, peeping from a curtain of rumours and insinuations, a little doubt is born. Not a doubt that the relationship is anything other than what it is but just small questions, random thoughts that seem to appear and ask if what we are going to say, what we are going to do can in some way be (mis)construed as out of the ordinary, maybe leaving room for more talk, more assumptions and more conclusions - a touch of artificiality makes its appearance in the relationship and soon begins to mark boundaries within which we are expected to interact. Society now dictates what is appropriate and what is not in the relationship and somewhere along the line, the untainted magic of the bonding fades away.

OK, I really need a long weekend to write some sensible stuff already!


Anonymous said...

Absolutely beautiful writing ..Really enjoyed it most !

Have a great weekend @ LBL


RS said...

Vasu, Thanks...LBL doubtful, mostly balderdash and movies thaan :)

F e r r a r i said...


This is very true.
'Maatran thoattathu malligai maNakkum'
So everyone keen to know, whats happening to others than to their own self. Sigh!!!

Subha said...

You hit the nail on the head.

Anonymous said...

So true, small but sweet blog.


Prabu Karthik said...

naan solradhu virumandi solra madhiri irukkum but irundhaalum solren..

sathiyama puriyalai

RS said...

hmm...epadi explain panardu? Just about how we get affected (at some level) by what people say...

Anonymous said...

Yep, sometimes it really is very difficult to ignore what others say straining any kind of relationship...but everything is for our own good, isn't it?

Btw, ignoring all comments is the best way to become a philosopher... :)


dinesh said...


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Ramji said...

Have you seen people who shout on top of their voice (not literally!!) "Dont care for what the society says?"

I wonder how many of them live like that? It is very difficult to live like that, because you need the society around you and the society does not need you. Crisp blog!!

Prabu Karthik said...

காதல் வலர்த்தேன் illai வளர்த்தேன்..

sorry for being a tamil vadhiyar:)

virumandi said...

so true..somehow all relationships go into this stage..i think this is 'cos
..people cannot give other's the 'space'

...people's propensity to please others!!!

RS said...

Thanks ye all :)

Dinesh: your shortest comment till date :)

P~K: Nandri, changes made :)

Anonymous said...

I'm not sure if I'm the bhavans' night host, who said "its great to be ordinary". Certainly ur writing isn't ordinary, it is impressive and interesting. Keep writing!


RTD2 said...

Nicely put..I've actually had this feeling before, but never knew how to express it!

RS said...

Prem Krishna, my host from 7-8? years ago :)...

You know I have always wanted to meet someone on the street and say, "Hey, aren't you so and so from Bits? Its been sooo long!"

Your comment is the closest I have come to doing that. Thanks and welcome here.

rtd2: When you do express it, I am sure you will do a better job than me :)

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