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December 14, 2005

Clumsily yours!

Do you know why men have easier lives in general? Because they are smart enough to not make life complicated, as women do. And why do women make their lives complicated? I have a sneaking suspicion that it's in their blood (I say "their" as if I don't wish to be a part of this conclave - I wonder why?!) Maybe it's the challenges we thrive on, the challenges that if life is not accomodating enough to offer to us, we create for ourselves!

At each stage, it's almost as if it is a competition for them, a competition in which participation doesn't count - you win or atleast act as if you are in the lead (Notice the use of the third-person personal pronoun? That's because I am still trying to figure out where I stand - do I want to be a part or do I want to stand apart? :)).

A career-oriented go-getter tut-tuts when she observes the homely wife, cooking - a job, which in my opinion can be equally challenging and worthwhile if you chose to make it so. And yet the woman throws a barely concealed look of disdain at the other. A slim and beautiful single girl talks to the visibly pregnant woman in a tone that pretty much says, "God knows how you do it! Thank goodness, I am not in your shoes!"

Why? Why this need to establish that she is placed in a much more fortunate position in life than the other? I have often wondered and while it will be unfair of me to generalize, I will say that I have observed this often enough to put this post up (after all, it is my blog :))...

And a short-story that dwells a bit on what I have tried to clumsily summarize here.

9 comments:

kamal said...

O are we talking about the "feelings network" amongst girls/women :)

Ok to pen, my theory, All the women in the world are connected to each other through a feelings network. The bond between any 2 nodes (read women) is based on how they feel about each other at that point of time :), So if a girl A tells a girl B that I really like you or your style or your figure ;), that in my book is a sixer in cricket or a touchdown in American football :) If they have a small tiff going on in between then, that link in the network is playing table tennis :) The relation between 2 women is quite a balance or should I say imbalance, and it is extremely funny for a third party like me to observe, etc etc etc :) you get the drift ? :)

Gayatri said...

Hmm...I read the story and I quite agree. Many women look down upon other women who marry young or completely become transformed into something they never thought they would. But such is life, and on another note, I think having children while you are young is a better thing than having them when you're older and have that much less energy and that many more responsibilities.
Again, it's far too general to hold true for everyone, but younger parents are able to spend more time with their kids rather than worrying about "quality time" spent with their kids. Also, the generation gap is that much smaller - communication that much easier!
good story RS - keep it up

hellboy said...

Interesting to know how girls relate to one another :-)

and you seem to have a pretty good grip of how guys want their lives to be - yes keep it simple, as simple as possible :-)

Ardra said...
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Ardra said...

came by here thru a mention by another blogger...yea, me too have come across some condescending comments and remarks- but then have also met some encouraging, secure women too who've been very supportive- but I don't quite know how to categorise the trend- becos some outgrow that phase, while its second nature to others ...
now let me go ambling by thru the archives...and have blogrolled you
rgds
ardra

RS said...

kamal - knew you couldnt resist this post :)

gayatri - food for thought. Thanks :)

hellboy - :)

ardra - thanks and welcome here :)

Purnima said...

Men have easier lives also for another reason that they can quite completely blank out information from their minds like it never happened/existed.. women on the other hand turn their minds into repositories of tiny events that gets rolled into this huge mass of negativity which takes on a new form... read insecurity.. in this phase women need constant approval and very surprisingly feel better about themselves when they try and make others look not as good ..! :) yup thts how "women" function/disfunction.. or thts my observation... but you know what i thought was hilarious? Kamal comparing the situation to cricket/football and then table tennis.. but then its all still sport.. think this.. a chalk writing smoothly on the board.. till wham one day you find urself with cheese and nothing you can do abt it! :)

An Idiot... said...

Women always compare themselves with others (other women) in all walks of life. They totally forget the point that humane differences are inevitable. Everybody fights the life battle; making your life complex or simple depends which of the the life army you fight againts.....makes sense...doesn't it.....

-Ramesh

RT said...

i dont think guys even think of what will happen to their job when they marry or have kids...it is assumed that it will go on as usual...only women start thinking if they will have to take a break/quit once for all/day-care..etc etc...For men, life is SIMPLE.

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