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June 19, 2007

Over the hill?


So, k turned thirty and unlike me, my husband loves to celebrate his birthday with a bunch of people, so, we rented disco lights and amplifier from Doo Wop (our local music store), ordered cake from Maggi's bakery, pizzas from Joe Bolognas and we were all set. We had a blast! But, what made the party more energetic were the group of 20-somethings from the University (Yes, I get to say that although am still in my 20s - not for long though :p) - ready to dance into the night and linger over silly conversations, which was such a rare treat for me...

Anyway, seeing them reminded me of my own early 20s and I was pretty much like them - wanting to try new things out, always ready for a road trip, talking to friends late into the night...not that am very different from that now. I still do like talking to friends late into the night, I still like going on road trips, but now everything has a clearly defined boundary. The friends that visit have a set time allotted for the visit (the concept of "lingering" long forgotten...or what we call "Daira podardu" in Tamizh :), the road trips that we plan are anything but impromptu and people have their own preferences, some of which they would rather not sacrifice even for a day. So, everything has to be planned - where we eat, when we eat, where we visit, even a visit to a coffee/ice-cream shop has to be co-ordinated prior to the trip...

Sooo, where does that leave 25-30 somethings like us? The 9-5 people who look forward to weekends to relax because their weekdays are monotonous and in the process of relaxing creating yet another monotonous-routine for weekends...?

I don't know. I guess in a way, this is the life that we worked hard for but we had just pictured it differently...

All I know is that I am grateful to the unexpected visits, the long conversations, the late-night parties and the "lingerings" that still manage to occur in my life :)

14 comments:

kamal said...

Thanks to me for making it happen :)

Subha said...

The 9-5 routine is the culprit! I am a very restless, easily-worried kind..and lingering when I have to get up next day at 6 makes me tense! :( sigh..yeah, those college days were really something wonderful..

RS said...

kamal - :)

subha - Hmm...Not sure I buy that argument, how often do we have to wake up at 6 AM and that too on weekends?! But "lingering" is an acquired taste...like wine, not for everyone ;)

Parth said...

Good to see other people in the near-30 boat. I think the change in lifestyle has more to do with married life vs. bachelor life than anything else. I don't think turning 30 really makes you any wiser and more reclusive :-)

dinesh said...

K - Belated Happy birthday.

Looks like you guys had some fun !

Ramya - what was the gift this time ?

RS said...

parth - Whaaa? Are we not any wiser :) ? You are probably right - marriage and a 9-5 schedule leaves little room for fun!

dinesh - A quiz (leading to "Music and Lyrics" audio CD) and a tree among other things...and the tree at the moment is struggling to survive - the late-frost killed all the leaves :(

Viji said...

Hey- Belated wishes to k! :-)
No treasure hunt this time?

Anonymous said...

btw, your dress is awesome! love the colour!
-viji

RS said...

viji - this time, I made a quiz with GK questions that he had to answer to get his gift :) And thanks!

IBH said...

hey Kamal belated birthday wishes...and man! u have to really work ur way to get ur gifts :) so rs...how tough were the questions?:)

RS said...

ibh - :) Tansen, Mississippi, Divya Desams, femur bone and our tree also featured in the quiz!

dinesh said...

Worst ! Naana irundhaa, idhellam answer pannirukka maatten. Gift a neeye vechukko nu poiruppen :)

RS said...

dinesh - awwww...would you refuse a cute, little tree that's supposed to bloom with pink flowers in the spring, with the leaves changing colors from green to yellow to red? Never mind the fact that it stands leaf-less now :p

Subha said...

>>how often do we have to wake up at >>6 AM and that too on weekends?

If you're like me, you just can't help it..:)

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