August 11, 2006

Me, k, food, rakhi, this and that.

People (men) say they have difficulty understanding women. While they have their own reasons to say that, I am going to say, I have a lot of difficulty understanding men! Now, I am not saying this to do something juvenile like getting back at them (after all, I don't even know them, why should I care what they say? Except if the men I know say that and in that case...well, in any case, they should read this post :)

Here's why I can't understand men or why I find them curious, to say the least.
Disclaimer: This is based on my observations of the men I have come to know in my life. Hmm...actually, let me just narrow the target population, this is what I have observed in my interactions with k (there, no room for oppositions...I think). But, let me go ahead and substitute men for k 'cause it sounds cooler when I generalize like that...whew! All that talk for nothing, anyway, here goes:

1. Men can't multi-task. For instance, if k is cutting vegetables (which he does, like once in 8 and a 1/2 months) and I am asking him if he likes the song that's playing on TV, he can't answer while cutting. You know what I mean? He has to:
- finish cutting
- listen to the song
- express opinion on song
If he is browsing and I ask him to switch on the TV, they are discrete tasks for him, so:
- he will place his laptop down
- he will search for the remote
- he will then go, "Ramya, where is the remote?"
- he will then take the remote from me
- he will switch on the TV
- he will go back to browsing.

Girls take it to an extreme in the opposite direction, I guess :) I cook dal while cooking a curry and listening to a song, sometimes balancing a cell on my neck. k would have a nervous attack if he was asked to do any two of these tasks together.

2. Men can't remember movie names/scenes/actors/actresses. It's kind of like it is with directions for me. I remember the place, how it looked, what it sold but not how to get there. For example, a typical conversation between us goes like this:

k (while watching Kasthoorimaan)- "This Tam movie sucks."
rs - "Ok, I didn't expect it to be bad, I like Meera Jasmine..."
k - "uh uh"
rs - "Remember? She acted in the other movie that we liked? Sanda Kozhi?"
k - (expression-less)
rs - "Remember it had Raj Kiran? You said he acted well in Thavamai Thavamirundu?"
k - "Hmm..."

Sometimes he asks me questions like:
"Hey Ramya, remember that movie with that babe in it that I liked? What was the song that I liked in that movie?"

I usually manage to answer questions like that but still, it makes me wonder :)

3) Men can't search. Examples:

k - "Where are my car keys?"
rs - "In it's place."
k - "What is it's place? I kept it on the floor here! (He points to exact x,y coordinates)
After I hand him the keys, he goes, "Where are my spectacles?" and then followed by, "Did you see my coffee mug? It was here (another x,y coordinate on the floor)."

4) Men don't like grown-up parties (be it birthday parties, polite get-togethers, house-warming parties - anywhere, where it's necessary to be polite and mature). And if there's one thing they dislike even more it's buying gifts for these parties. I mean, we cannot go empty-handed to a birthday party, can we? (We can but not after we are 25+ ;)

5) Men don't like grocery shopping (see previous post :p)

6) Men don't like to be reminded of responsibilities:
k - "Am going swimming Sat morning"
rs - "Ok, but we have to call your parents Sat morn. We promised them."
k - "If it's such a big job, we shouldn't commit to it!"
rs - "??!" (A big job for you or for me?!) :)

6) Men like to have as few thoughts as possible in their heads at a time, women like to leave as few thoughts as possible out of their minds!

k - (reading investment book)
rs - "Hey heard about this?..." and I tell him something interesting that happened at work that day. We then each start thinking about it. I have a 100 thoughts running through my head about what happened that day.
Five minutes later, I see k carefully scrutinizing a point in space and I ask him,
rs - "So, what do you think?"
k - "About?"
rs - "About what I told you."
k - "Oh...nothing."
rs - "Ok, what were you thinking between then and now?"
k - "Nothing much."
rs - "Nothing at all?"
k - "Well I thought it would be fun if I could make my robot start my microwave oven for me."
rs - "Oh and?"
k - "That's what I thought."

So...anyway, that's a lengthy post about a whole lot of nothing, so, I'll conclude it with some random pics (my culinary experiments and k's rakhis)!


RT said...

1. Men can't multi-task.

not like what we do...but i guess s~ can...he sees the foot ball match and cuts vegetable...

2. Men can't remember movie names/scenes/actors/actresses.

hmm...maybe true...S~ anyway sleeps through movies...

3. Men can't search. Examples

Well, i am bad at it myself...still searching my id card, ipod charger and my watch (S still doesnt know abt the last...that is the one he presented for the last bday)

4. Men don't like grown-up parties


5. Men don't like grocery shopping

you can take out grocery from the prev line

6. Men like to have as few thoughts as possible in their heads at a time

cant agree more:-)

Siva said...

I am sure all the women would love this blog. Multitasking - higher risk of getting burned at the stove or cutting ones fingers.

Men are well aware of such things and as such see no need to cut vegetables and look at the tv or anywhere else. It's quite elementary actually.

I was more attracted towards your culinary experiments. :)

Subha said...

LOL! The last bit about having as few thoughts as possible was hilarious..:)

Saranya Kishore said...

Nice post! :--) Although I should say you are basing your judgement from a very very tiny sample space :--)
I do agree with most points, like men can so not multitask, and men dont like shopping, and they have verrrry few thoughts in their heads at a time. But searching, remembering movies, 'responsibilites' etc is probably not restricted to gender. Partially would apply to girls lke me too ;-)

dinesh said...

LOL...really funny post. Was laughing hard at some parts..

And you and Kamal remind me more and more of Ray and Debra. :)

And finally, your disclaimer was really warranted here. Not all men are like that at all. Or did you substitute "men" for "K" so he wouldn't know that this was a full fledged attack on how he lived his life ? :)

ammoos said...


couldnt agree more. you just posted my life story!:-))))

Zeppelin said...

like dinesh said, the disclaimer was absolutely warranted.. :) because I disagree with most of your claims :P..

subramoni said...

dishes ellam paaka sooper a irukku :). Next time you decide to experiment with so many dishes, I am just a phone call or email away :). I agree with most of what you had to say.

Parth said...

Is this based on sample space or "sample" space? (desi college lingo). While I disagree with several of your points, hats off to the hilarious writing. The points can keep coming btw

Zeppelin said...

dei MONI, enna da anyayam idhu.. "dishes" kaaga ippidi jagaa vaangitiye da..cha :(

RS said...

aarrrgg...I kept seeing 1 comment in firefox, it just didn't show me the new comments until now. Will be back to respond :)

NIZ said...
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NIZ said...

Hey just crawled across ur blog..its awesome :).

I once happened to say similar stuff to someone...n he mailed me this link the very next day.

I couldnt help going "yeahh!!" after reading every line :)

Prabu Karthik said...

K ya kalasaradukaaga inga oru gumbale irukku ba!

>>Men can't multi-task.
Well that depends on the "tasks" if you ask me :D

>>Men can't remember movie names/scenes..

aah adellam chumma. you shud've quizzed K with Hindi movies..
Tamil movies and mallu heroines like meera jasmine are all out of syllabus for him, or so he thought!

>>Men can't search!
Yep. agreed. the only search we do is google search :)

>>Grown-up parties, gifts..
spot on. no questions.:)

>>Grocery shopping
RT is right, you can take out grocery there...:)

>>Men like to have as few thoughts as possible in their heads at a time

Almost true:)

RS said...

rt - Actually, talking about movies, k can multi-task! His laptop will find him automatically as soon as I switch on a movie!

siva - will have more posts related to my food experiments soon!

subha - remember the conversation we had? :)

Saranya - :)

dinesh - darn! You caught me :)

ammoos - :)

arun - And I object ;)

subu - sure thing!

parth - LOL!

niz - will read the rest of that article soon :)

p~k - "out of syllabus" :)))

Amrutha said...

Mosa, is that a piece of pizza in that pic? wondering..

Viji said...

I'm droooooooling at your dishes! :D

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