Other than that I am in a pretty vacuous state of mind (read d u m b). Today at work, one of my colleagues asked me a technical question that I should have been able to answer and I just looked blankly at him and said, "I don't know" - maybe I should stop reading those articles that celebrate these situations -
Yeah! Go ahead and say, "I don't know", people will praise you for your honesty and assume there are a lot of things you actually do know
or
Change your career, give up your job, take a sabbatical and get to know the real you, it's okay to retire early and goof off at home.
All my life, people have been telling me that I have a "confidence problem" which perhaps is true, partly at least. I have been in several situations at work where people with far less knowledge on a subject than me have shot off their mouths confidently and worked their ways out of it pretty decently. So, maybe I just need to trust my instincts and gray matter and speak up and appear more confident. Or maybe just be the way I am, perhaps my perception of me is not the same as what others perceive me? Gaaaah.
There was this lady on the Bob & Sheri radio show who claimed that women needed approval from people and that differentiated them from men. k, for instance would ask me, "How does it matter what a particular colleague thought of you? You deliver your work on time and do a good job and that's all there is to it..." You know, I think that lady had a point, women pay way too much importance to other people's opinions, think of the times you had a crush on someone that all the hep girls in school had a crush on? Or think of a more relevant analogy that would prove my point (Don't blame me, I have the sniffles).
So, all this thinking did not help with my allergies. So for now, am goin' to return to my vacuous state of well-being and nothingness. S'long!
Oh, almost forgot, here are some pics we took at Georgetown Kite Fest this year - Spring allergies, gloomy skies and pouring rain couldn't keep us away :)
9 comments:
Was Benjamin F. there with you too at the kite festival? And get well soon...or keep cooking at least :P!
>>All my life, people have been telling me that I have a "confidence problem" which perhaps is true, partly at least. I have been in several situations at work where people with far less knowledge on a subject than me have shot off their mouths confidently and worked their ways out of it pretty decently.
Hmm, rings soo true! I have realized the same a tad bit late. I guess at work, its not enough to just be smart and prompt, its also required to blow your horn and also poke you rnose into others work, and just talk and talk at meetings, that shows you off as being proactive.
Hate it as I might, I have started doing it. Very unlike me.
Good luck to us! :--)
heyy, where're our pics? No fair! :)
Duhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!
K (and almost every man on the globe) said the right thing.... What does it matter about someone else's opinion on u....
Kite Festi: I missed it :((
Seems like a few blings were purchased and snapped (thank God, not in Black and white).... Keep going... Tonite, I'll check the food section to see if I can master something out of it..... ;)
e - sniff...what's the context? :p
sk - I still hesitate to speak up...but gonna try to work on my confidence level :)
doodler - Huh? I don't even have my pic up here :p Wanted to put up long shots, not close up face shots - those are kind of boring at outdoorsy events...and I don't have a long shot of you or S flying a kite :)
red - Good luck with your culinary experiments :p
Confidence level is what pulls me now a days...there are two things..u keep talking....or u alk at the right moment at the right place and pass the ball to the other court...and i am always a believer of the second one....i talk at the time when I need to talk..but I put it very assertively and in a waythat no one can question me after that....i guess with 9 years work exp. if aint doing this then there is a problem right....:)
but i know for sure u have the stuff to say..so go ahead...put it sometimes in assertive way, sometimes in politically correct way and sometimes u HAVE to be blunt....
not sure if i made any sense....but this is what i wanted to say on confidence level and such
Have u seen kurudhipunal??
Kamal gave a classic defintion for dhairiyam in that movie.(bayam illadha madhiri nadikaradhu)..
Adhu madhiri dhaan confidence um :P
ibh - makes sense :)
p~k - Nice...:)
Nicce post thanks for sharing
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